Narcissism of the Dark Triad Man is integral to his being.
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It’s one of the dark triad of narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. It’s a key component that makes up the power of the Dark Triad Man.
Narcissism gets a bad rap today in the casual language of our culture. “He’s a narcissist” is not spoken as a compliment. There is resentment in that tone along with a whole lot of other emotions and postures that are far more revealing of the speaker than the target of their envy.
The casual image of the narcissist is someone who thinks he is awesome. Who loves themselves a little too much, who preens in their own spotlight and who puts themselves first in all things with a lack of empathy for the experience of others. Who is enamored of their own looks, enthralled in their own drama, selfish in their interactions and has little regard for the feelings of others.
The layperson’s definition is just a tiny bit correct. It is also paradoxical. The false verbal disapproval is oddly in conflict with the very nature of our postmodern, selfie-taking Instagram look-at-my-ass Facebook world of self aggrandizement and artificial display. Our entire culture is about narcissism and rewards it with vast, enormous fortunes in the entertainment world. Sexting is not about the pleasure of the recipient, it’s about the ego aggrandizement of the sender.
If you think Kim Kardashian is an innovative businesswoman with singular talent and deep analytical business expertise, combined with incisive and powerful insight into the marketing strategies of the entertainment industry – you may want to think again. Her business model is really simple, and two-part:
“Watch me have sex!”
“Mom, pimp me!”
That’s our modern culture’s casual definition of narcissism. Not that it’s an ineffective business model; the Dark Triad Man adamantly refuses to criticize success and Kim Kardashian’s $85MM net worth is the very definition of success. Good for her and she deserves every dollar.
But the paradox of the social message of “narcissism is bad” in a modern culture absolutely dependent on and addicted to it isn’t a paradox or a mystery to the Dark Triad Man. He is intimately familiar with the egotistical and self-deluded nature of the vast masses of humans and does not succumb to surprise at the gratuitous displays and events which are on 24 hour stream into our electronic lives.
For our analysis of narcissism today we’re going to define, dissect and deploy this trait in three important ways. And just like we did with our earlier post on Machiavellianism, we’re going to review narcissism from three perspectives.
The medical provider, the Dark Triad Man and one more.
We’re not going to look at narcissism from the individual perspective of those who interact with the Dark Triad Man. That’s going to be different for everyone. Some will be captivated, some will be repulsed, most will be impressed and almost all will be somewhat starstruck and susceptible to enthrallment.
Enthrallment is an important methodology and we’ll cover that in a later post. But if we’re not going to look at the impact of narcissism on individuals, what are we going to examine once we’ve toyed with the therapists and psychologists and psychiatrists who of course disclaim any professional or medical ego that might interfere with their competence?
After we have reviewed how the Dark Triad Man exploits his trait of narcissism?
We’re going to look at the reality of narcissism in the dark world.
Stay tuned for that. You will see why narcissism truly does structure history and how today’s instant selfie culture is not a change but simply an eternal human voice turned into fast food for six billion egos. You will see how crucial and inherent it is within the great men of history who shattered continents, seized thrones, and established immortal glory for their names.
That is the path of the Dark Triad Man.
Tenebris carpe thronum.
Darkness seizes the throne.
For therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists narcissism is a potentially disordered aspect of personality, a trait that can be casually strength-tested here. The mental health professional’s understanding of narcissism has to do with demands for recognition and achievement, a desire to keep focus on themselves both in public and relationship settings and a demanding insistence on being the center of value. Just as with Machiavellianism it’s also about boundaries here.
Machiavellians are expert in fluid and utilitarian presentation of their boundaries. Psychopaths don’t have boundaries.
For narcissists, their boundaries are the ones that matter the most.
Medical providers view narcissism on a spectrum. One one end is healthy narcissism, the existence of normal and typical boundary presentation between self worth and the worth of others, between self importance and empathy. Healthy narcissism as understood by the medical provider is a great and wonderful thing. It keeps the average man from crippling self doubt, and gives him resources to uphold his own boundaries.
On the far end of the spectrum we have what is called Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Here’s the relevant short definition, from Psychology Today:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder involves arrogant behavior, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration-all of which must be consistently evident at work and in relationships. People who are narcissistic are frequently described as cocky, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. Narcissists may concentrate on unlikely personal outcomes (e.g., fame) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. Related Personality Disorders: Antisocial, Borderline, Histrionic. Narcissism is a less extreme version of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Narcissism involves cockiness, manipulativeness, selfishness, power motives, and vanity-a love of mirrors. Related personality traits include: Psychopathy, Machiavellianism.
As described above, in the middle of the spectrum we have your everyday narcissists. Medical providers are moving more towards the view of narcissists as being consistent from external through internal frames, rather than the condescending attitude of “you’re just insecure inside”. Psychology Today continues:
Narcissists tend to have high self-esteem. However, narcissism is not the same thing as self-esteem; people who have high self-esteem are often humble, whereas narcissists rarely are. It was once thought that narcissists have high self-esteem on the surface, but deep down they are insecure. However, the latest evidence indicates that narcissists are actually secure or grandiose at both levels. Onlookers may infer that insecurity is there because narcissists tend to be defensive when their self-esteem is threatened (e.g., being ridiculed); narcissists can be aggressive. The sometimes dangerous lifestyle may more generally reflect sensation-seeking or impulsivity (e.g., risky sex, bold financial decisions).
We are going to extract a few things from this and then roll them forward into our review of the narcissism of the Dark Triad Man and how he exploits this dark trait, feeds it, turns it into a grim and terrible steed and rides it hard into the dark world.
Narcissism is directly connected to self-respect.
Self-esteem is a buzzword we all have heard countless times. “Little Johnny needs to enhance his self-esteem.” Self-esteem is blathered about from preschools to kindergarten to grade school and junior high (where it is typically torn apart with savage glee) and we take silly, contemptible steps in our society to foster and fertilize the self-esteem of individuals with participation trophies and by stopping blowout high school football games because the score is too lopsided.
And some little snowflake might have their thumb sucking coddling interrupted and their self-esteem damaged.
Such a tale of woe.
It is ridiculous.
The Dark Triad Man has nothing but contempt for self-esteem not founded on a true self-respect arising from real achievement in the dark world.
Self-respect without self-esteem doesn’t happen. But the reverse happens all the time. You can esteem yourself but not respect yourself. You can believe you’re wonderful and still drug yourself into emaciated homelessness. You can glory in your gorgeous body and slut your way through carousel theme parks of casual sex until you’re rancid and infectious and tastelessly disgusting to anyone with class and self respect of their own.
Narcissism without that grounded being of self-respect, derived from actual achievement through hard work, is not necessarily “disordered”. But nor is it a positive thing.
The Dark Triad Man views it as gratuitous, which is displeasing and of no use in itself.
Gratuitous is a word I will use here often. Pay attention to it. It’s an important concept.
Gratuitousness is not the same thing as excessiveness.
We’ll be covering it in a separate post all by itself.
It is one of the refusal principles of the Dark Triad Man.
The typical narcissist does have utility as a resource, as annoying as they can be and even though they present demands of unsupported value in a market to which they bring nothing. Due to their demanding nature they tend to rise to positions of power and can be profitably steered by practitioners of Machiavellianism. In particular they serve as excellent, pre-positioned alternates for the sharp axe of consequences since it is their nature to overextend in their own blind self regard. It means they do not sense danger well.
Achievement requires danger.
The Dark Triad Man doesn’t call it danger. He calls it risk, and the truth of the dark world is that risk will eventually kill you.
No one makes it out of here alive.
But achievement is immortality.
Narcissism is a requirement for achievement.
The most famous statement of achievement narcissism comes from Muhammad Ali. His seminal statement is distilled into awesome, admirable and concise truth that became known the world over and associated with his immortal name:
I am the greatest!
And he was. We’ll get back to historical figures like Muhammad Ali at the end of this post. The important thing here is to understand that narcissism is essential to peak performance. You cannot succeed with world class achievement absent the essential component of achievement narcissism.
You see, narcissism is in many ways an internal dialogue. Most often it is unconscious. It is typically an uncomplicated but demanding and selfish attribute that manifests automatically to whatever degree an individual possesses ego.
But those who are champions, those who dream of being champions, those who drive themselves to exhaustion in the pursuit of excellence and attainment and success – they have a conscious dialogue. They take their desire, they literalize and replay their success dialogue, they believe in themselves and they don’t allow themselves to be dissuaded from their purpose. It’s the high school football athlete who is on the gridiron before dawn, working on his running patterns. It’s the aspiring musician who spends hour after hour in the garage with a guitar and plays his heart out over and over and over until he is dripping sweat and feels like the glorious, sex-dripping embodiment of a rock star god.
This is the process of success: creating a vision of oneself, further advanced in power than the present, and believing in that power and reaching for that power and grasping it with torn fingernails and bruised knuckles and exhausted mind and body until it is yours.
We all understand that example. We praise those people, even though positive comments are usually about their talent instead of their effort.
“He is so talented.”
Translated: “It’s something magical, not hard effort.”
You don’t hear praise like “He’s obsessive and single minded and crushes any obstacle to his blinding goal of power.”
Instead, you just hear “obsessive”.
Obsessed is a word that failures use to describe champions.
That is because most people abhor effort and determination and ferocity in achievement. They use words like “obsessed” because they are too weak and afraid to devote themselves with their entire being to the achievement of a single purpose.
“Kim Kardashian’s new reality episode is on tonight, right. And you gotta, like, you know, have balance, you know what I’m sayin’?”
The Dark Triad Man does not respect weakness masquerading as wisdom.
The Dark Triad Man takes driven obsession one step further and connects with the divine.
The Dark Triad Man seizes the throne.
Narcissism of the Dark Triad Man.
Now we are going to return to the Dark Triad Man himself and we are going to look at how narcissism is the steed on which he rides to the heavens and grasps the hands of God. And once again, we have our medical providers reading this and sprouting instant ear boners (I own a German Shepherd and those of you who are in the regular company of The Dog will understand the term) at the words we are reading.
“Grandiose,” they say to themselves sagaciously, nodding with wise self-satisfaction. “Grandiosity is integral to narcissism.”
Have you ever met a mental health provider who came across to you as grand, powerful, remarkably impressive in regal bearing and who served as a formidable living embodiment of unstoppable achievement in the dark world of men?
Of course not. That is not what they are about.
If you are a Dark Triad Man, that is exactly what you are about.
And your path to achieving the embodiment of this archetype is to understand mastery of narcissism according to The Nine Laws of the Dark Triad Man.
Narcissism and The Nine Laws.
The Dark Triad Man engages with narcissism completely. He employs it deliberately. He deploys it with ruthless and terrifying focus, because he understands that it is absolutely key to his adherence of The Nine Laws.
We are going to look at them here.
The First Law is survival. You must live. Survival is the highest expression of self love: ensuring that you remain alive. Because your value to the world demands that you are here tomorrow, and the next day. Your existence is not negotiable.
The Second Law is concealment. Do not reveal. If something can be perceived, it can be hit. If it can be hit, it can be killed. The perspective of the self as a protected, concealed treasure is foundational.
The Third Law is purpose. Motive is inherent in everything you do. Your purpose is the driver of God from which the manifestation of your self engages with the world and brings to fruition the establishment and success of your design.
The Fourth Law is endurance. Your spirit is immovable. Your faith in your Self is unshakable and your patience and your endurance blossom from that faith and enable you to persevere and persist in the face of impossible odds.
The Fifth Law is posture. The heart of a mirror is the highest form of perception and the self as mirror is the most blinding reflection that can be displayed to any eye. The posture of the heart determines the expression of self.
The Sixth Law is freedom. Infinite mobility is the highest capacity of wealth. To roam free over Heaven and Earth with none worthy to be your master is the validation of unbounded freedom and the most powerful display of self will.
The Seventh Law is power. Power is sacred worship at the infinite engine of the universe. Your possession of power arises from and is given birth by your divine prerogative to possess it. You are Man and you are the living image of God in action in the world.
The Eighth Law is preposturousness. That anything at all exists is ridiculous and the limitations of human beings in the world itself are as preposturous as division by zero. The self is the center of the universe for without that self the universe does not exist.
The Ninth Law is no laws. There are no laws and there are no rules. Prerogative of the self is what exists, for there is only one life and all boundaries are illusions from those who lack the enlightenment to see that everything is division by zero.
A warning on the power of The Nine Laws and narcissism.
The Nine Laws are listed above. They are not provided in complete form in this post.
That is deliberate. This post is a discussion and analysis of the narcissism of the Dark Triad Man and not a teaching primer.
If you attempt to employ them with only narcissism as your understanding you will do so in a lopsided, self-destructive and potentially dangerous manner with consequences that may well be permanent in your life. You must include the interactions of the laws with Machiavellianism, and most importantly psychopathy, in order to correctly and safely employ The Nine Laws in the dark world.
Narcissism and history.
We are going to look at some examples of history where the narcissism of great men, undoubtedly viewed as disordered by the mental health professionals ensconced in their comfortable chairs. Who would never dream, of course, of reaching for the throne of Caesar themselves.
These great men in history did have a powerful, driving and unstoppable belief in their own grandiosity and more important than anything else they proved to the entire race of Men that their grandiosity was accurate and their immortal names and empires will live forever in the annals of the dark world.
The man: Napoléon Bonaparte
The achievement: One of the greatest military leaders in history, he seized the French Revolution and made himself emperor – twice.
The quote: “He who fears being conquered is sure of defeat.”
Why he is selected: Famed for his arrogant confidence, his unlimited belief in himself led him to paroxysmal heights of power and drew the thrones of the world into his grasp for tossing out to lesser kings like candy. You must deeply study the self confidence of a man who returned from exile, dismounted his horse, walked up to the pointed rifles of the army and shouted “Here I am! Kill your Emperor, if you wish!” And the army responded with howls of worship and followed him to Paris and took the city. He changed the face of Europe and his campaigns are still required study. Hitler, a man of no small narcissistic achievement, worshiped in reverence at his tomb.
The man: Julius Caesar
The achievement: He crossed the Channel and conquered Britain. He came back and took over the government of Rome. Then he crossed the Rubicon with his army, overthrew the Republic, and created the most enduring legacy of empire in the history of the dark world.
The quote: “I came. I saw. I conquered.”
Why he is selected: No man without the ultimate embodiment of dark triad narcissism could leave behind an immortal legacy of such boundless and historic power. He is considered the greatest military commander in history and it took an entire Senate armed with daggers to stab him into death and put an end to his conquering power. But he lives forever and his name is synonymous with triumph.
The man: King Henry VIII of England
The achievement: “Henry the Eighth, by the Grace of God, King of England, France and Ireland, Defender of the Faith and of the Church of England and also of Ireland in Earth Supreme Head.”
The quote: “We are, by the sufferance of God, King of England; and the Kings of England in times past never had any superior but God.”
Why he is selected: Just look at that title. He is the most charismatic monarch in English history. Also one of the most cruel and determined. Bored with the latest queen? Clap her in the Tower and then strike her head from her shoulders. Question him as supreme overlord of both the worldly kingdom and the realm of God? He would have you hung by the neck, cut down and racked, your guts reeled out and set on fire, your genitals torn off, your head cut from your body, your dripping, bloodied limbs hung from his wall and your rotting head displayed on a spike. He wasn’t gratuitous, he was serious.
Narcissism and grasping the divine.
As we see from the immortal legacy of those examples, the pinnacle of narcissism is the divine right of kings. Today the divine right of kings is not recognized by the international order. That international order exists and was instituted at the end of the Second World War to inhibit, and intentionally prevent, the rise of another global conqueror who drives his narcissism to the awesome heights of Heaven and rules the world from astride his unstoppable chariot of bloody dark triad power. And today the common man reassures himself that there will never be another Alexander, another Genghis Khan. That the dark world has been fenced, that the dark world has been ended, that light and reason are now the essence of existence.
The new world order is here and it is the end of manly ambition, the end of Caesars and the end of men who reach with grasping hands to seize the throne.
Go tell that to the Islamic State.
Go tell that to the men who are pouring like water into the Middle East to follow the new Caliph who carves and butchers and conquers his way from the Levant to the Caucasus to the horrid darkness of Africa and accepts frothing oaths of sworn allegiance from holy warriors who openly declare they will put the Pope himself to the sword and die in explosive legions with the name of God on their lips.
And men watch and wonder, asking in amazement why young men follow the black banner and behead with such remorseless cruelty.
Go tell that to the dark generals of China who sit and wait in patience for the rise of the Dragon Kingdom once more and the plundering of the world underneath their groaning and enslaved billions. They already own the greatest share of the gold of the West and they plan to rise and seize the world.
The throne is always up for grabs.
The dark world does not recede.
The dark world is eternal.
A final note for the mental health professional.
The difference between the narcissist disordered individual and a Son of Heaven with legions of armored fanatics prepared to burn your nation to cinders and turn your women and children to plundered and worshiping slaves is very simple:
That is all that needs to be said.
Direct your narcissist to achievement, and the true Dark Triad Man will respond and deploy himself with ruthless competence until his achievement is ended by his own death. Because he accepts no limits, he accepts no boundaries, and knows that the strictures of the world are illusions fostered by the enfeebled who dare not exult in their own hard-won accomplishment.
And to the extent a man has competence, he will achieve according to his belief in himself.
That concludes our discussion of narcissism.
Learn to recognize your narcissism and understand and master the truth that it is the basis of achievement. Learn to foster your achievement with indomitable will and unshakable devotion to your single minded pursuit of your obsessive goal.
Make achievement a habit.
Make competence your hallmark.
Follow the Way. Master the principles. Employ the methods. Utilize the techniques.
That is the essence of the Dark Triad Man.
Remember who I am and what I offer.
I am Ivan Throne.
I offer ruthless mentoring for a dark world.
Thank you for reading.
The pleasure is mine.
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